About StanleyMilgram

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  1. NathanPS MTG Elite Contributor

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    Hello MTG,

    This is most definitely one of the hardest threads I have to write and I write this with a very heavy heart..

    Unfortunately StanleyMilgram aka Tom has passed away. As we all are more than likely aware Tom is one of MTG's volunteer moderators and took time out of his life to help make MTG a better place.

    I received an email from Tom's step father informing me of his passing. It is suspected that Tom has committed suicide in his clinic during non business hours, his body was discovered on the 10th of September 2016. An inquest into Tom's death is being carried out.

    I've been informed that Tom has left a letter, inside this letter he has addressed the community, at the end of the letter he quoted:

    "Love and be loved, hope and hope for those who have little hope, and most
    of all smile when you can."

    He then enclosed a copy of the poem "If" by Rudyard Kipling and beneath it wrote "May Sergey rain money on everyone".

    Link to poem: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems-and-poets/poems/detail/46473

    I cannot imagine the pain his family is going through, the emails I exchanged with his step father have shown the raw emotion.

    I'm taken back by this, I would message Tom quite often to see how things were going and to have a chat and he always seemed so happy and full of life, he had a couple of rough patches but nothing seemed out of the ordinary, however sometimes life takes its toll.

    Please if you're ever feeling like suicide is the only option please reach out to someone, anyone.. My inbox is always open for a chat, otherwise there's heaps of help available, visit http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html to find help within your region, don't ever think for one second your life isn't valuable and don't ever be afraid to speak up, whether it be you need help or to ask someone "are you okay?".

    This is all the information I've currently got, I have received permission to write this thread from Tom's step father.

    Rest in peace and fly high Tom

    Sincerely,
    The MTG Community.
     
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  2. WimpLo MTG Elite Contributor

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    Terrible news. :(
     
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  3. TNK It's what you make of it Moderator

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  4. Alessa MTG Elite Contributor

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    This is so sad to hear :(
     
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  5. ESKAiNE Refract. Contributor

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    He will be missed. He made me feel welcome always and he always had a awesome sense of humor. RIP.
     
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  6. cccgolfer08 MTG Elite Contributor

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    Sad to hear... he was such a good guy.
     
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  8. Topherella Member Member

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    Very sad news indeed . Condolences to the family.
     
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  9. DolphinDove New Member Member

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    OMG that is so sad....My heart goes out to his family & loved ones :(
     
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  10. Dollydoes New Member Member

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    Words fail me, incredibly sad news.
     
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  11. Miriette MTG Elite Contributor

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    I'm speechless... I always liked seeing him around and enjoyed his sense of humor. my thoughts are with his friends and family.
     
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  12. hvnnvr Optimistically Functional Contributor

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    I honestly don't know what to say, as others have stated this is yet another blow, to our community and he will be missed. Please pass along all of our condolences to his family.
     
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  13. RicanGuy86 Falafel Smuggler Contributor

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    A true compadre. He will be sorely missed.
     
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  14. Saturnina Member Member

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    So sad to hear this. My condolences to his family and all of his friends.
     
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  15. NathanPS MTG Elite Contributor

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    I have provided his step father with a link to this thread. Needless to say I'm sure he will be reading these comments when he gets a chance. I will update the thread as more information is provided.
     
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  16. MatchBox11 Smile. It will make them all wonder Contributor

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    You'll be missed, Tom. Prayers said for his family.
     
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  17. jdzane MTG Elite Contributor

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    I just don't know what to say. Tom was a great guy. He was patient with me when I was starting out and asking mundane questions. He always had an amazing story to share. I will forever remember his story about the guy who broke into that "find jewelry in a candle" in a factory and hurt himself with fire trying to mass melt them all, and the confusion that resulted in his ER. I am heartbroken to hear of this, and wish I had reached out more to him in the past month. I will miss him dearly.
     
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  18. King.HeatherM Veteran Member Member

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    Wow, This is really heart breaking and my condolences go out to his family.
    He will be seriously missed.
     
  19. bthor457 MTG Elite Contributor

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    Tom was a great guy with a big heart. So very sad.... Prayers and condolences to Tom's family.
     
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